Life Hacks for Successful Relationships – Better Relationships through Home Cooking

Life Hacks for Successful Relationships – Better Relationships through Home CookingClick Image To Visit SiteI’ve been there before, the times where I struggled to keep my relationship afloat with my wife, Frida.

Do you have trouble breathing, relaxing, and sleeping because of all those fights with your loved ones?

I’ve been there, and I know what it’s like. Shallow breathing, tension in the gut, chest pains, rapid heartbeat… Every moment is exhausting, crushing, and painful. Anxiety destroys your confidence, your productivity, your relationships, and your ability to enjoy life. The worst part is the obsessive hopelessness – the gnawing sense that you’ll never feel happy again.

Rest assured, you’re not alone. And let’s be honest, I’ve probably made twice as many mistakes as you have. I’ve ignored advice from my friends, kept my ego high, gone for discussion groups, and even thought to end our marriage.

In 2010, I proposed and Frida, accepted. At the time, I believed that marriage was a simple thing—just get to a wedding and then live together under one roof. Every weekend go to the cinema and malls. Shop together, eat together, and laugh together. That’s it. Nothing complicated. I said to myself, I will just have fun with it. Soon after, I learned the hard way that marriage was not as simple a thing as I’d thought it would be. Then the wedding with all its glory and the excitement of the celebration were done. So there we were—wedding day, done. Renting a place together, done. Moving into the new place, done.

On the weekends, we went to malls and shopped. Unfortunately, we often perused stores and shops in near silence, finding little to say to each other. Although we held hands as we felt we should, it became increasingly clear that we were not happy. Meanwhile, life went on. Since I didn’t know what else to do to make Frida and me happy, I spent a lot of money in those early days, using my credit cards to spend more than I had on more than we needed. I bought a new audio system and many gadgets, additions to our life that only served to drive us further apart as we isolated from each other, burying our love in material things that had no substance and provided no real joy.

This went on for some time, until one day when we travelled back to my hometown for a Chinese New Year celebration. We arrived in time for lunch. My mother and father prepared us a simple home cooked lunch. My wife and I enjoyed that lunch so much and so deeply. We felt the warmth of the food not only in our bellies but also in our hearts. Sitting across from Frida at the familiar dining room table in my childhood home, I could see my wife’s face brighten again. The smile I’d fallen in love with was back. My wife and I talked and laughed together again, happily teasing each other the… Read more…